Welcome to The Safe Library: Dr. Albrecht's Library 2.0 Service, Safety, and Security Resources

Our Library 2.0 "Safe Library" training programs for library staffers and leaders cover service, security, safety, supervision, and even a little stress management. Our goal is to help to keep all library employees physically and psychologically safe, making it easier for them to serve all patrons in their facilities.

Dr. Albrecht's podcast recordings and feed are to the right, and following immediately below that is a full list of his blog posts. A full list of paid webinars is to the left.


May 9th, 2024


Dr. Albrecht's blog posts are below. One of the features of his blog is "ASK DR. STEVE," where readers submit questions and he answers them. To submit a question for Dr. Steve, please email askdrsteve@library20.com.

By Dr. Steve Albrecht

There are patrons that you serve on a daily or near-daily basis, who see you almost as much as they see their local coffee shop barista. They just love or really like the library and they may really like you. The question is: Can you or should you ever become personal, outside-of-work friends with a patron? Maybe this has already happened with you in your career and it has developed into a nice friendship. Maybe you tried to develop a friendship outside the library and it either never got off the ground or it ended badly. (I’m not talking about developing or initiating a dating relationship with a patron; that’s a complex subject for another day. And while dating equal-level co-workers has a number of potential hazards, dating a subordinate is usually prohibited by HR policy and bad for business.)

Perhaps it’s best to start with defining some categories of people in your life: your lifelong best friend, who knows all about you and vice versa; your really close friends, who you shared lot of your life and who you spend most of your time with; good friends, who you don’t see or talk to enough, because of mutual busyness or geographic distance, but when you do reconnect, talk by phone, or meet for coffee, it’s like old times; work colleagues, whom you may or may not socialize with on occasion outside of work; friends of your spouse or partner, who you know but don’t hang out with alone; acquaintances, who you know from your neighborhood, your school days, or in passing, that you say hello to or make polite conversation with, but never see otherwise.

A predictive rule of thumb: if you have been to their house more than once, met their spouse/partner and kids; done things socially (movies, picnics, ballgames, concerts, coffee, cocktails, lunches and dinners) or they have done likewise with you, they are probably a good friend. If they are the type of person where you ignore their call on your cellphone, probably not so much.

Not every person in your life has to be a bestie; but it helps to be realistic about the number and type of relationships you can put energy toward, with the time you have. In The Tipping Point, bestseller Malcolm Gladwell cited the British evolutionary anthropologist Robin Dunbar, who suggested five seemed to be the top-end magic number of close friendships most of us can manage. That comes from Dunbar’s research into human relations which says most of us have five intimate friends; 15 good friends (which includes the first five); 50 friends (the 5 plus the 15 plus 30 more); and 150 all total. People who say they have “hundreds of Facebook `friends’” are usually not really engaging with any of them.

As a library employee, becoming friends with a patron outside of work is usually based on shared interests, often centered around the love of books, movies, or video games. Or the book subject in question is an activity you both like - hiking, kayaking, knitting, owning dogs or cats, book club meetings, cooking, eating out at new restaurants, antiques, softball, going to the theater, etc.

The two keys to my discussion here are safety and boundaries. If you want to develop friendships with patrons, start small, pick safe locations and activities, and see how that goes. One initial boundary is that you do not invite that person to your home until you’re certain they are stable, reasonable, and not going to become too intrusive. Some people are good at hiding their neediness at the start of a friendship. Next thing you know, you’re taking them to doctor appointments, loaning them gas money, and trying hard not to give them relationship advice. They should never ask you to put your professional stature at the library at risk or monopolize your personal time.

On a recent drive from the airport to my home, I discovered through small talk that my Uber driver grew up in San Diego at the same time I did. We hit it off immediately and became the type of guys who meet for coffee, go to an occasional movie or ballgame in our new town, and talk about the Good Old Days in our former city. Our “acquaintanceship” is on a good level, just as it is.

Maybe you have the same type of casual, easy connections with a patron or two? Enjoy, with eyes wide open.

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Dr. Steve Albrecht

Since 2000, Dr. Steve Albrecht has trained thousands of library employees in 28+ states, live and online, in service, safety, and security. His programs are fast, entertaining, and provide tools that can be put to use immediately in the library workspace with all types of patrons.

In 2015, the ALA published his book, Library Security: Better Communication, Safer Facilities. His new book, The Safe Library: Keeping Users, Staff, and Collections Secure, was just published by Rowman & Littlefield.

Steve holds a doctoral degree in Business Administration (D.B.A.), an M.A. in Security Management, a B.A. in English, and a B.S. in Psychology. He is board-certified in HR, security management, employee coaching, and threat assessment.

He has written 25 books on business, security, and leadership topics. He lives in Springfield, Missouri, with six dogs and two cats.

More on The Safe Library at thesafelibrary.com. Follow on X (Twitter) at @thesafelibrary and on YouTube @thesafelibrary. Dr. Albrecht's professional website is drstevealbrecht.com.

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Praise for Dr. Albrecht

"Thank you, thank you, thank you! Thank you for presenting at our staff development day. Our staff has expressed their appreciation for the information and tools you provided. We know the lessons learned will be useful in our day-to-day work. It was a pleasure to have you with us -- even if it was only virtually." - Athens, GA Library

"I wanted to thank you for the session. My husband was listening from the other room and said, 'Wow, that was great!' This was the best library workshop I've been to, and I've been to a lot! The staff was saying the same in emails." - Emily from MI

"Your suggestions of what to say to challenging patrons will really help me once we allow patrons back into the library. Thanks!" - Lori from IL

"Not only have I learned incredibly valuable skills to use in my career as a public librarian, those lessons will have a ripple effect as I teach a course on Social Crisis Management... I always give Dr. Albrecht the credit in the portions of my lecture and presentation.  And have first hand experiences using these lessons to support his approach. Thanks again for lending your expertise to ensure that as librarians we can remain safe, keep our customers safe and still deliver on our mission and the meaningful work we do each day." - Jen 

"You helped to keep my brain from turning into mush during this long time off. Thank you!" - C. from MO

"I was able to view Library Safety and Security and Interacting with the Homeless. I learned so much and appreciate the education you offered.  I became aware of changes, large and small that I can make in my life to enhance how I interact with all people. I do hope our library offers your classes in the future because I did not view all the webinars that I wanted to and I am sure my coworkers feel the same. Thank you again." - Vicki from VA

"I wanted to send you a note of thanks for your webinars... I watched 5 of them and found them to be incredibly informative. Currently I am working with my library's director to put together a situation response manual for safety and security matters that apply to our own library... What you have shared has been very useful to help set up some guidelines and decide a good direction for training within our organization. Thank you so much for sharing your insights." - Jennifer from IN

"Thank you for the great content. I appreciate it." - Carmen from MT

"[I] found [your webinars] extremely helpful and informative. Thanks again and stay safe!" - Christine from PA

"I remember when you came to our Annual Employee Training Session and presented a terrific class. I was able to view all of your webinars during this time and I learned so much. Your generosity of spirit during this pandemic is truly appreciated and your kindness will be remembered. Thanks again and Cheers." - Bernadette from CA

"We have watched a couple of [your webinars] in the past and they always provide a great approach to issues that are becoming more and more common in public libraries." - Rod from TX

"Your webinars were educational and inspiring." - Karen from GA

"I have recently watched all your webinars... (this begins to sound like a groupie saying, "I have all your records!") and I'm so grateful to have had the opportunity to learn from them. They were probably the best work at home professional development material I encountered in the two months my library has been closed. I've worked in public libraries since 1988 and everything you said makes sense in my experience. I look forward to putting what I learned from your webinars to use when we eventually reopen to the people the library exists for. Many thanks!" - Barbara from BC Canada

"I've learned a lot from your diverse offerings as I knew that I would. I listened to 4 of your webinars at this run. I also attended your talk last year at one of our branch libraries. I hope that your presentations remain in my mind and that your practical, philosophical and respectful methods of engagement can be brought forth in times of need." - Deborah from CA

"We don't always take the time to do online courses or participate in webinars because of time and money restraints. We have been lucky to have the time now to take advantage of these opportunities. Your webinars really pack a lot of info in the time allotted. Your observations and surveys conducted with staff across the country made this applicable and the reality. Many of the situations described sound like our day to day interactions with patrons. Again thank you so much for these valuable webinars. I hope we will be open soon and able to put your tips into practice." - Kathy from MD

"I’ve really enjoyed all of your webinars, especially the ones about security and challenging patrons, and I’ve gained some useful knowledge that I can utilize at my library. I hope you have a wonderful day! Thanks again!" - Deborah from OH

"You're the best of the best." - Nick from CA

"I have found your webinars especially helpful during this time of stay-at-home orders and the inability to report to work for my daily schedule. (My branch is closed indefinitely.) I have especially found "Interacting with the Homeless" and "Stress Management for Library Staff" as the most help to date. I have been doing daily meditation as a stress reliever and taking time to find happiness despite all that is taking place in this world.... having this opportunity to listen to your thought-processes is very invigorating and life-changing. Thank you from the bottom of my heart." - Danielle from MD

"[Y]ou've expanded our minds and helped us greatly with your generosity. Thank you for all that you do, I appreciate it immensely." - Valerie from TX

"Thank you very much for your work and very good webinar." - Donna from IN

"I appreciate your vast knowledge on patrons and safety situations." - Mary from IL

"I've long wanted to explore your work, and have enjoyed and learned from 4 of your webinars so far, with plans to view them all. They are excellent! I am charged with leading our staff around issues of safety and security in our rural system, and you are a clear and dynamic voice in our field. I really appreciate your experience, knowledge, and presentation style, down to talking fast to get the most information into the time of the presentation! Hopefully, I'll be able to obtain the new edition of your book soon, as I hope to keep these themes as relevant currents for the duration of my career." - Kimberlee from CA


"Thank you for your wonderful `Safety and Security in the Library' presentation. I so appreciate that you were able to join us virtually this year and share your knowledge on these topics with our library staff. I look forward to exploring some of the resources you shared with us."

"Thanks so much for recording the presentation. It was fantastic!"

"Thank you, Dr Steve, for your presentation today. It was very helpful and insightful. Your subtle humor also lightened the mood."

"I wanted to reach out and thank you for all the information that you gave in your webinar on conducting a library facility security assessment."





Watch Dr. Steve Albrecht on video and onstage, as he presents his safety and security workshop, "Dealing With Challenging Patrons" to a live library audience. 45 minutes for unlimited staff showings at a one-time $495 fee or included in any all-access pass program.